My Funny Valentine

    Happy Love week to you all. So I know that you all didn’t think I wouldn’t come through with a good Valentine’s Day read merely because I touched on it in last weeks blog. Did ya? As a hopeless romantic, I’m here for anything that promotes the celebration of love. Especially in the era of the hot boy and the real a$$ chic who claims not to give a.....well I’m certain. you’ve heard the songs. You get the point. Cultivating a place where it’s safe to embrace love are the vibes that I’m here for. 

       I think we are familiar enough with each other here to know that I’m not for sugarcoating anything. So let’s talk candidly for a moment. I first would like to touch on the obvious. And hopefully this helps some of you out. As previously pointed out, Valentine’s Day is one of the largest commercial holidays. Christmas trees aren’t taken out of stock good before we are greeted with an array of teddy bears and chocolates at your most frequented stores. As much as the day is symbolic of love, gifting is what is most promoted. I mean who doesn’t love to be thought about? And sometimes a random gift or token just to say “I was thinking of you,” will melt the coldest of hearts. But is that what it’s all about? 

      A person who’s love language is receiving gifts hits the mother load on this holiday done right. Valentine’s Day gifts can be any range of things. From marriage proposals, to colognes and roses, some people put a lot of effort into gifting. And then there’s the ladies who have waited all year to give her Valentine the best sex ever or treat him to some rare sloppy toppy. Excuse my candor but Miss Ma’am that is NOT a gift. For Pete’s sake, don’t you know life is too short to be holding onto a new trick for a holiday? Every day that you open your eyes is a special occasion. Having someone to share that day with, even more special. Don’t get me wrong, ending the night with some mind blowing sex is a bonus. But not “the gift.” 

       I am in no way promoting materialism here. Although I love to gift for any or no reason. Or just to say, “Hey you were on my mind.” What I am however saying is, don’t be the woman who feels like you want to be spoiled on this or any day just because you showed up with your lady parts exposed. That’s not it! Money aside, there are plenty of ways to show HIM that he too is appreciated. And that’s that on that. 

      Now for those of you who actually take Love day seriously but don’t know what to do to commemorate it, here’s a couple suggestions. It’s always a good time to fly the friendly skies. If you’re a couple whose been together quite a while, then I’m sure you have visited your favorite restaurant together plenty of times. Why not find a new fav out of state, or the country even? Make new memories celebrating with your Valentine abroad. This goes both ways. A trip can be planned by either the man or the woman. Besides ladies, we gotta show em we too can make boss moves! And don’t forget to add throwing it back on a different hotel balcony to the end of the night. *Insert wink*

     Next up, sip and paints have become very popular. But everywhere is usually pretty crowded on this particular day of the year. So why not create your own sip and paint at home. Create your own specialty cocktails. Have dinner in place. Tasty treats for after. Mood music set. Find a subject to create. And get your Vincent Van Gogh on. I’m sure it would be loads of fun, and maybe even turn into a body paint session after. Just be creative. 

      The possibilities are literally endless as to what you can do with and for your love. But I can’t give you ALL of my free game. Then Bae will know what to expect when I lay it down for him! All kidding aside, y’all know I just want to see you all living happy and healthy lives and relationships. So what Valentine’s Day is really all about to me, is reminding each other of the love that is shared between the two of you. And every  single day should be a mirror of that same level of energy when it comes to how you love. Even during the roughest of times, Never forget what drew the two of you together in the beginning. Valentine’s Day and every day when you share your life with someone else should be about finding new ways to love your person over and over again. Even if that person is YOU. Have a wonderful love day, however it is you will be spending it. 


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  • I love it! You are right this is the season of love and expression not all that so called I go hard and don’t need love BS.

    My sweetheart is new he and I are are only about 3 months in and the ride has been amazing. I am still contemplating my gift to him; however, what I do know is I want it to be sentimental to the point of him feeling like I was listening to him and observing what he likes. The card will be blank filled with a poem from me to him about our journey to the present. I am sure he will be appreciative as I will be of his gift.

    Needless to say our intimacy is a gift that keeps giving and if he is the one will continue giving.

    Happy Love Week to you as well Sunshyne.

    • Malyonjays
  • I love it! You are right this is the season of love and expression not all that so called I go hard and don’t need love BS.

    My sweetheart is new he and I are are only about 3 months in and the ride has been amazing. I am still contemplating my gift to him; however, what I do know is I want it to be sentimental to the point of him feeling like I was listening to him and observing what he likes. The card will be blank filled with a poem from me to him about our journey to the present. I am sure he will be appreciative as I will be of his gift.

    Needless to say our intimacy is a gift that keeps giving and if he is the one will continue giving.

    Happy Love Week to you as well Sunshyne.

    • Malyonjays